Wow. Lot there. I'll try and answer a few of those questions, however, I really do believe that the bottom line with drivers is you've got to be comfortable with it. Regardless of whether it's 380cc or 460cc, the thing has to look right, feel right, and BE right for you. No use using something that just doesn't feel good to you. How are you supposed to make a confident swing? Ultimately, it's the swing that will determine how good the club really is. So, that said, get something that you LIKE, that you feel good about. The key thing is to make a good swing and hit it square. But, yes, lighter clubheads are more desireable for more speed. Bigger clubheads have a bigger hitting area or sweet spot - so mis-hits go further and straighter. There is SO much great technology out there. Find a clubhead you like, get the right shaft put in (see a clubfitter), and put a good confident swing on it everytime - then you'll love your results and will get rid of your confusion. Hope that helps a bit.
Andrew
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Andrew Penner is a Class A member of the Canadian PGA.